A Beautiful Story From My Brother

My brother Jim posted this on Facebook. I’d post directly from there, but I can’t get the post to imbed, so I have to cut-and-paste.

I watched the VP debate and I’m now watching the Arnold Palmer memorial with Jack Nicklaus talking about their competition and I again have to talk about the lack of respect in this world. Fight hard, but realize competition does not mean demeaning your opponent.

Lisa’s dad was the same age as Arnold and had played against him many times as an amateur. When I worked for her dad we had to work a Monday event where Arnold was the star. We hated Monday events and Dean was in a foul mood. He said “Arnie won’t even remember me”. He was so wrong. About an hour before the event was supposed to start the door from the locker room to the pro shop blew open and Arnie says “where’s Dean?” I’m 21 years old, looking at Arnold f***ing Palmer and just point to Dean’s office. Arnie goes back there and stays for 45 minutes talking. He signs the LeRoy Niemann lithograph Dean has and goes to the first tee. Lisa’s dad is giddy…:he remembered me”. He rode that feeling of respect for a long time. That lithograph is in our home today.

As contentious as the competition for president is, let’s remember that the most intense competition is based on respect. If we forget that we have nothing.

Exactly. I worry that, when this election is over, there will be people — good friends — not speaking to one another. Please, let’s not let that happen.

8 thoughts on “A Beautiful Story From My Brother

  1. I started watching the VP debate last night. I think I made it 5 minutes before their constant talking over top of each other and completely ignoring the moderator got on my last nerve and I turned it off. Their lack of respect for each other really doesn’t encourage respect between voters. Awesome story about Dean and Archie! 😀


  2. I did not watch the debate last night, too busy watching the baseball game. I am afraid of what will happen if Trump gets elected and I really can’t understand how some of my friends think that he is okay. I’m trying really hard not to discuss politics because, as you say, I’d hate to lose a good friend over it. That said though, could they really be a person I would want to hang around with knowing that they think what he does and says is okay?

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  3. Great story! I’m taken aback at the vitriolic nature of American politics. So many people take everything personally! It disturbs me that friendships are destroyed in the process.


    1. There used to be this idea that you could “disagree agreeably,” where the relationship with the other person was more important than their opinion, and that’s gone right out the window. The old saying was never to discuss religion or politics. It’d be nice if people got back to that.


  4. Hi John – exactly … great story and shows what communication along with being a decent person can do … a good lesson for us all to remember and take forward – and always practise ourselves … cheers Hilary


    1. Right. It’s like civility goes out the window when politics are involved. I was always told the two subjects to avoid are religion and politics; I wish people would go back to that, if they’re going to be so nasty. It’s one thing if people can be civil and didn’t allow it to interfere with their friendship, but that’s no longer the case.


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